A hard pregnancy is definitely not ideal, but it doesn't have to define your experience. With proper care and attention, you can still make the most of your pregnancy journey. Taking care of yourself is the best thing you can do during a difficult pregnancy. Pay attention to your body and take note of any changes or discomforts. Make sure to get adequate rest and nutrition, and don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it. Additionally, it is important to keep a positive attitude and stay connected with family and friends who can offer emotional support. Finally, be sure to communicate openly and honestly with your healthcare provider so that they can address any concerns or complications that may arise. With the right mindset and proper care, you can still enjoy the special moments of pregnancy, even when it’s not easy.
No matter how challenging your pregnancy may be, remember that you are strong enough to get through it, how do I know! ? Because you already are getting through it. Don't let a hard pregnancy bring you down; instead, focus on yourself and all the amazing things your body is able to do. With a little self-care and extra support, you can make the most of your pregnancy journey. So take it one day at a time and enjoy all the beauty that comes with bringing a new life into the world.
I had a hard pregnancy! I had many losses before my rainbow baby stayed. I thought given how much of a hippy chick I can be that I would take to pregnancy like a duck to water. I was not a duck albiet I waddled like one. I was a hippo who's hips gave up on her!!! Sometimes we go through tragic losses prior to this current pregnancy and the fear that still overhangs can be hard to move through. Ignoring it isn’t going to work, it’s called Emotion for a reason E-Motion, you gotta move through it! And you can, you just don't have to do it alone.
The other side of pregnancy can come with PND, Post Natal Depression and this is very dangerous for the mother and the unborn child, so please talk about it. Don’t suffer in silence, there is help available! It is a mild to moderate depression that can last up to a year after birth. Symptoms include feeling overwhelmed, anxious or disconnected from your baby; guilt and self-doubt over parenting decisions; feeling exhausted or having difficulty sleeping; difficulty concentrating or making decisions; mood swings and irritability; body ache, headaches and digestive problems.
Treatment for PND is important and can involve counseling, lifestyle changes, support groups, medication if needed. Your primary care doctor can offer advice on the best way to seek help if you are experiencing symptoms of depression or anxiety. Your mental and emotional health during pregnancy is just as important as your physical health, so don’t be ashamed to ask for help if you are struggling during and after pregnancy.
Remember: you are not alone! Pregnancy can be hard, but it doesn’t have to define your experience - seek help, talk about it and take care of yourself. With the right support, you can still enjoy the special moments of pregnancy and look forward to the amazing journey ahead!
You can find your friendships change shape and sadly sometimes disappear all together when you are in dire need to your adult friends, this can be a big blow and one that you may choose not to share. Getting yourself some new mummy friends is a must. You will be on the same trajectory and experiences, these new friendships will be a great source of enrichment to your life. Your 'missing friends' will come back around most likely as they too head on thier own motherhood journey and you knowing what it's like, will show up with the support they didnt know you needed.
Here is some local support you can call upon
Mama JoJo www.mama-jojo.com a local doula who provides various support services and comes recommended from local mums. The Milk Bar is one of these services, a weekly drop in group in Ware, a safe non judgemental space for new mums.
NCT of course is a long standing organisation
Daisy Foundation
Baby Boo- Bears classes from birth to age 4.